Just realized I’m turning 40 in 2028. Tell me all about how cool it is please

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Abby Phoenix · Answer

Knowing thyself: The earlier adult years are great for trying all sorts of things, and it’s not that you’re not going to do anything new again after 40. But you’re going to try things being more sure than ever before of what you like, what you want to be open to, what you definitely don’t want to do, etc.

It’s just the best to realize that there’s someone that knows all your likes, loves, desires, annoyances, anxieties, idiosyncrasies, and greatest comforts. Someone who actually has a lot of control over how your life goes. Someone who gets to be with you for the rest of your life, and will never tap out. PS that someone is you.

I’m sure there exist very enlightened people who get to this point before 40. But for me and many of my peers, 40 is around the fulcrum point when you come to this realization. You curate your own life, and you can be VERY good at it!

helen · Answer

Compounded growth: Dude. I cannot tell you how many times you need to hear something before it actually sinks in. Things need to be repeated to you for A DECADE OR TWO. Get into your forties and really experience yourself in its truest form. I’ve loved coming into my own and facing a lot of bullshit I’ve avoided for so long.

ENJOY once you’re here, but also settle into the ride and find the beauty in every day.

(Photo of my daily reminder that life is way more fun when you participate fully.)

Kate H. · Answer

Not giving a shit: I stopped giving a shit at 40 and it’s amazing. Wouldn’t go back for anything.