Radical Honesty
Recommended by Steven WeillDefined as "the practice of complete honesty without telling even white lies", the phrase was trademarked in 1997 as a technique and self-improvement program based on the bestselling book by Brad Blanton.
Blanton's programs argue against the moralism in honesty and instead promote the practice as a means of reducing stress, deepening connections with others, and reducing reactivity.
I can completely understand the merit of the moral argument, as well as Blanton's more pragmatic take but if I'm being radically honestly myself, this is not for me. Bless your heart if you're not only strong enough to lead this life yourself but to also be loved in this way.
7 months ago
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@dreamlifeliving
I have a history of breaking peoples hearts, including my own. I’m a relationship fluffer; I’ll get people to believe I believe in them and the life we are creating, all the while internally being uncertain that it is really something that I want. I’ve historically done this because of complex trauma around abandonment and telling the truth. I was raised and coached by adults in my life to keep secretes and to believe that my own opinions or the truth did not matter nor was even permissible to be shared…complex trauma around communication. All that to say: radical honesty, although SO difficult and painful at times c has actually been instrumental in my healing and growth. I ended my most recent fluffed relationship after a year…the one previous lasted 10. When I finally mustered the strength for “radical” (maybe even basic) honesty, I have found the benefits of stress reduction, deepened connection to self and the ability to connect with others and decreased reactivity, therein.