Time alone with your oldest

I totally agree with @Sarah that you need time alone with the new babe. But it’s also really good to carve out one-on-one time with your oldest. In early postpartum, this can all be in bed! Twenty minutes of reading books alone with your two-year-old or coloring or really whatever. Any intentional time when you hand the baby off to someone in a separate room and are totally focused on the big one. I found giving it a name was helpful too. My oldest started asking “can we do special mama alone time?” and I think it gave her some language for when she wanted attention before it turned into a meltdown.