Boundaries!

2 for 1:

1) I did the initial IVF consultation at 38yo and it was dehumanizing for me. I felt like an incubator before we even got started. I apparently needed to be a fertile host before a vasectomy reversal was even an option (second wife problems). For many reasons I decided not to go ahead - the link is to a "know when to stop" essay but there's all kinds of info on the site.

2) A friend of mind did go ahead with IVF, her parents would ask for updates very frequently. While you need support, if you were, uh, doing the bunny hop, I don't think parents are asking how often you're doin' it. It gets awkward. It's okay to say, "I'll tell you when there is something to tell."