Frameworks for big decision-making?? Give me something more than a pro/con list PLEASE!

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Maryn · Answer

Values-based decision-making: When my husband and I were recently trying to decide if we should make another out-of-state move, we made a list of the things we value about a place to live: walkability, diversity, great food scene, etc. Then we went down the value list and gave each place we were considering a score out of 5 for each value. Then we tallied up the scores. It was a surprisingly impactful way to see which decision aligned more with our values.

All this to say, it worked because we're moving next week!

(Linked is a popular list of values from Brené Brown which are a great starting point depending on what the decision is)

sunset strip mall · Answer

Designing Your Life book: this book is basically a compilation of life coaching strategies – you don't need to read the whole thing or do the whole thing, but i imagine somewhere in there you might find a tool or two to help make tricky decisions in a way that feels more nuanced/thoughtful/true to what you want if a pro/con list isn't cutting it

Jenn · Answer

Ikigai: Does it align with your Ikigai?

From Wikipedia:

Ikigai (生き甲斐, lit. 'a reason for being') is a Japanese concept of an individual's definition of the meaning of their life.

Ikigai can be having a sense of purpose in life, as well as being a source of motivation. According to a study by Michiko Kumano, feeling ikigai as described in Japanese is usually the sense of accomplishment and fulfillment that follows when people pursue their passions. Activities that generate the feeling of ikigai are not imposed on an individual; they are perceived as spontaneous and undertaken willingly, making them personal and dependent on a person's inner self.

Liz Corkery · Answer

Should You Move? Have Kids? Change Careers? Frameworks For Hard Decisions: This episode could be helpful? I can only take my fellow Liz in small doses or my self feels a little too helped but she does get terrific guests.