Let yourself be unlikeable babe!!!!

"People pleasing is a form of control, and I say that with so much love for the part of me that learned how to do it. When I’m managing your feelings, what I’m really managing is my own safety. If I can keep you pleased with me, then I never have to sit in the terror of being disliked or being too much or being a disappointment. It worked! It’s also manipulation, and both of those things are true at once.

Let’s not pathologize it. Our survival strategies are proof of how hard we fought to stay here. And at a certain point they stop helping, which is where this month’s diary prompts come in. The theme is “letting go of control,” depathologizing and reframing manipulation so that we can actually transform it."

~ from softcore_trauma on instagram 🤯🤯🤯