keeping house while drowning

Recommended by Chiara

in response to Dylan

Best ADHD-friendly tips for organising small spaces & keeping them organised? My apartment pantry & cupboards are constantly chaotic - I need a functional system!

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this is the book my ADHD-having wife recommends to everyone on this topic! the author also has a podcast called Struggle Care if a book doesn’t feel reasonable rn

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5 months ago

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Michael

@curiousMay 20, 2026

Thanks for sharing! If your wife had to pick one technique/insight from the book that she found most helpful, what would that be?

Lucy Propper

@lucypropperMay 20, 2026

I second this rec- I refer the system she lays out for cleaning and picking up stuff around the house soo often

Lucy Propper

@lucypropperMay 20, 2026

I think she calls it 5 step cleaning? I transcribed it in my notes app while listening to the audiobook lol

Chiara

@chiaraMay 21, 2026

The concept from the book that my wife talks about most is that you get to decide what “done” is - you can just throw your clean clothes in baskets, unfolded, instead of folding/hanging anything if that works better for you(& I think there are probably other chores where that can apply)

Notorious JGP

@notoriousjgpMay 22, 2026

I have this book, but haven’t gotten around to reading it yet 😅 Appreciate the reminder that it’s worth the effort.

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How to Keep House While Drowning

Allison

“I picked this up thinking I was going to be helping my husband and teen with their Executive Function issues. It ended up helping me see how my own issues around “adulting” were shaped by my family of origin and how that affected caring for myself and our household. I learned so much and recommend it to everyone.”

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Shannon Case

“Choose a room and follow these 5 steps 1 - Collect trash (put in bag, but don’t take outside yet) 2 - Pile up dishes (put in/near sink, but don’t wash yet) 3 - Pick up laundry (put in basket, but don’t wash yet) 4 - Gather things that have a place and put them in their place 5 - Gather things that don’t have a place and put them in a container (figure out their place later) This method has helped”

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