Remembering it’s not your fault
Recommended by Caitlin Kotula
I blame myself for everything I can, even when it doesn’t make sense. Some small (younger) part of me believes that if I can take responsibility for all the bad things, then maybe I’ll have control over them too. This, of course, is never true. I rarely do remember, but sometimes I just need to remind myself that it’s not my fault, no matter how painful that truth is. So in case you haven’t heard it in a while:
It’s not your fault.
[Bonus rec: allow yourself ugly, snotty cries often, held by others or holding yourself <3]
3 months ago
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@lidarichardson
Therapist once pointed out that feeling guilty about everything put stuff that’s just really sad and awful in my locus of control. Blew my mind.
@caitlinkotula
Exactly 🥲🖤
@aphoenix
Excellent reminder and perfect clip. 😍
@caitlinkotula
Ngl I shed a tear or two rewatching it
@ginam
A therapist once introduced me to the responsibility pie technique - think about or actually draw a pie chart with slices for all the people and things that contributed to an outcome. It’s been helpful to release myself from the weight of responsibility (and shame and guilt)
@caitlinkotula
That’s such a great technique - I love handwriting/drawing to get me out of my head so I think it would work well for me. Thank you! ☺️
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