recs on divorcing someone well. things you wish you’d known/done, things you did to care for yourself, etc

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Rachel Jacobson · Answer

Better apart: Read a lot of books through divorce. This was the practical best.

Emily · Answer

Send that text to a random number.: After a breakup, you might feel that familiar urge to text your ex an inside joke or funny missive only they would get or a reminder of a friends birthday, etc. Resist the urge by sending that text to a random number. It scratches the itch, I promise!

Tamara · Answer

Totally depends on the relationship: If it was mostly good and just didn’t work out, then try to approach it without malice. Remember that you loved each other, and approach things with fairness and mutual care in mind as much as possible. Mediation is often cheaper and way less painful than lawyers in these cases. Basically, take care of yourself, but don’t forget why you got married in the first place

If it ended on bad terms do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself. Sometimes that’s just running and leaving it all behind, sometimes it’s finding a shark of a lawyer, sometimes just rallying all the support you can find.