Favourite self-love songs? Songs that make you feel inspired to be kind to yourself, be independent, or say fuck ‘em?

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Amber · Answer

Bonny Doon - Long Wave: "you are who you're supposed to be" <3

Sarah · Answer

Love Myself by Hailee Steinfeld: Super recommend the KREAM Remix!

Sarah · Answer

Dancing On My Own by Robyn: A bit sad but such a bop!!

Moira Price · Answer

Leave the Party by Miya Folick: I want to fill myself with bliss/when I’m alone I exist

Moira Price · Answer

It’s not right but it’s ok by Whitney Houston: Pay my light bill, take care of my babies

Moira Price · Answer

Can’t get enough of myself by santigold: Oooh, All I want to do
Is what I do well
Ain’t a gambler but honey I’d
Put money on myself
Oooh, All I want to do
Is bottle it to sell
Cuz my brand of vainglory is
Much better for your health

Kate George · Answer

This song and entire album by Lyndsey Scott: I’ve been looking for some chanting music and this album is so lovely and the songs just stick with me all day to hum along to. I also love “as I relax”

Rebecca · Answer

Yes I Can, Sammy Davis Jr.: I didn't know it was a book but it should be so I'm glad it is.

This is the first track on my manifesty, kick-a-bad-mood-right-in-the-ass playlist. Truly makes me feel like a superhero.

Lulu Lefferts · Answer

Gonna Make My Own Money (Deap Vally): I play this song right before I enter any situation that intimidates me. The musical equivalent of a Power Pose. Works every time.

Maribeth · Answer

Extraordinary Machine by Fiona Apple: This song is strong without having to be loud, bold, or epic. It’s showing off its own power by being unbothered and sure of itself in its own way, and the lyrics highlight the same. Here are a few of my favorite lines:

If there was a better way to go, then it would find me
I can't help it, the road just rolls out behind me
Be kind to me, or treat me mean
I'll make the most of it, I'm an extraordinary machine

And:

I mean to prove, I mean to move in my own way

And say I've been getting along for long before you came into the play

Fiona’s like, just because I’m not what you thought, or not what you want, doesn’t mean I won’t succeed. A casual refusal to be anyone but herself, and it’s divine. Happy listening!

amy · Answer

Sigrid - Mirror: I love who I see looking at me
In the mirror, in the mirror
Nothing compares to the feeling right there
In the mirror, in the mirror

One of my go-tos when I need a pick-me-up! This album (How to Let Go) has even more motivational bangers like “It Gets Dark” (especially good for seasonal depression) and “Bad Life” (for the days when everything goes wrong).

Martha Tesema · Answer

Live For You: Listened to this every morning during a dark time of my life. It helped a lot ❤️

Posey · Answer

Songs for when your brain needs help: I made this playlist to listen to while making dinner. It was made in 2023 when my daughter was still wee and cooking felt like “alone time”. I hope it brings you some peace and joy!

Khaki · Answer

Just Fine // Mary J Blige: Perfect BPM for the morning- really gets you feeling awake and fab!!

monna · Answer

Break My Soul - Beyonce: A whole anthem!

sofie · Answer

You Ain’t the Problem: Great for singing at the top of your lungs when you feel like you might be the problem. You aren’t!

Tori · Answer

who's the clown - audrey hobert: This whole album is healing my high school and college self 💗 (favs are Sex and the City, thirst trap, and Phoebe)

Dylan · Answer

Shania Twain - Man! I Feel Like A Woman!: A camp masterpiece and tongue-in-cheek riff on Robert Palmer's Addicted to Love video. Also the perfect karaoke song. Let's go girls.

Dylan · Answer

Sampa The Great - Final Form: it is simply impossible for me to listen to this and not start groovin

Dylan · Answer

Saweetie - Fast (Motion): Locomotion we causin a commotion

Dylan · Answer

ADÉLA - Ain't In LA: Being eliminated from Dream Academy (the intense reality competition show that culminated in the genesis of Katseye) was the best thing to happen to this rising star.

The 22-year-old Slovak dancer, singer and songwriter was born to be a solo artist.

This track is a love letter to the pursuit of ambitions regardless of where you come from, and the video pays homage to her hometown of Bratislava. Her mum and sister even feature briefly.

If you're a pop music nerd like me, you might even pick up on the winks to iconic 2013 anthems like Miley's We Can't Stop and Lorde's Team - what do you think?

I'm also a huge fan of her lead single, KGB (her dancing is INCREDIBLE), and the fourth single & video, Nicole Kidman (we're big Nicole fans in this house).

If you like Addison Rae, Charli XCX, Kim Petras, Slayyyter, I think you'll love Adéla's debut album, PRIMA.

Dylan · Answer

Rebecca Black - Salvation: FYI: screaming "I LOVE BEING DISGUSTING! TO YOU IT DON'T MEAN NOTHING! I'LL STAY HOT AND YOU STAY JUDGY" is actually a very spiritually healing practice

Dylan · Answer

Mason vs Princess Superstar - Perfect (Exceeder): watch me work it i'm perfect

Dylan · Answer

COBRAH - Brand New Bitch: Do my nails, cut my hair, I'm a brand new bitch

Dylan · Answer

Meredith Brooks - Bitch: meredith brooks invented feminism!!!

Dylan · Answer

Thriving Out of Spite (a playlist): Made this for one of my besties when she was dealing with the rotten aftermath of a cursed ex-relationship, and honestly, it's some of my finest work!

Not only is it a big post-breakup mood, but it also works wonders for snapping me out of a depression or a funk or when I just need a reminder that I'm THAT BITCH.

As a bonus, the playlist features a glorious pic I took of her butt on a boat (which she generously permitted me to share with you all).

Featuring artists including: Amyl and The Sniffers, Ashnikko, Doechii, Fiona Apple, Hole, Princess Nokia, Slayyyter, Stella Donnelly, Wet Leg + more!

PS - although I'm still under the evil grip of spotify for a multitude of reasons (despite being absolutely not ok with their ethics or lack thereof), if anyone wishes to recreate this playlist on your platform of choice, please feel free to do so & share it below <3

Dylan · Answer

Tinashe - Melatonin: Scientifically impossible to listen to this and not wanna dance your ass off! Such a strong third release from Tinashe's upcoming album, Popstar. The song is FUN, the video is FUN. I am excited for what's to come!

Dylan · Answer

Cleo Sol - Know That You Are Loved: from Cleo's 2021 record Mother. i can listen to this on repeat for hours as a form of self-love meditation. this song has got me through the darkest of days <3

Sarah · Answer

💖: Ohhhh I have a whole self-love playlist for youuuuu!

Miranda · Answer

Mantra - Shygirl: fresh track, but it’s been on repeat for me

Spines, Flicks, and Wax · Answer

Erykah Badu - Bag Lady (Official Music Video): Always a good pick-me-up.

Lida Richardson · Answer

Universe (Ambar Lucid): Gosh I have playlists FULL of these but this is one of my favorites. I belong to the universe!!!

Lida Richardson · Answer

Selfish Girl (Charli XCX): Also this Charli XCX b-side

Lida Richardson · Answer

Free (Tove Styrke): This one did some heavy lifting on my playlists.

JaperMoon · Answer

Party for One - Carly Rae Jepsen: I feel capable of responding to most requests on here with CRJ