Waiting Kind of a Long Time to Do Stuff to Your House

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I’m coming to the belief that behind the romance of an “acquired” space or a “lived-in home” is a giant boulder of patience, and the for-free side hustle of hardcore noticing before changing anything. Shelter media does nothing to cultivate the patience boulder! This lovely essay by Katy Elliott did.

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Coofandy

@andrewseaSep 19, 2026

Yes you get to that point where you are acting as a steward of the house into the future, rather than just the current occcupant of it.

Kate

@homesweetschneseSep 20, 2026

This! The longer I wait the more the original things grow on me and I find ways to repair rather than replace.

Across Rec League

Waiting Kind of a Long Time to Do Stuff to Your House

“I once had to give a presentation to the hysterical perseveration commission in our city about something we needed to do to our house and shared a quote I had ripped out of Real Simple magazine and that hung in our kitchen for many years. I csnt find the exact quote, but I think it may have been Erica Bauermeister: “ a house is a partner; you have to listen carefully.” While searching for the quot”