Having a good therapist

Be creative. I found mine in the acknowledgments of a book I loved. In the past I have found them on Psychology Today or via referral. Interview several, it's worth the intake cost to get a good one, basically just meaning the one you connect with. Try to go in person if you can, but don't be a stickler about it. Make insurance claims, because otherwise stingy companies are more generous about reimbursements under the circumstances.