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What changed your relationship with saying no? I’ve always struggled with saying no — even when I’m aware I don’t have the time, energy, or capacity to say yes. And being too willing to accommodate other people has come at the expense of my own time, priorities, and peace. I’m curious for those who’ve gotten better at saying no: was there a moment, realization, or shift in perspective that changed it for you? What helped you stop seeing “no” as letting someone down and start seeing it as something else? Would love to hear your thoughts!!!

The 24 hour rule
Noticing the quality in others and appreciating it
The Giving Tree by Shel Silversteen
Get specific about your priorities
9d·6 responses

What do you guys do for fun when you want to get away from doomscrolling? With friends family or alone?

Becoming a birder thanks to Merlin Bird ID
create something by hand
Read!
send your besties a video of yourself dancing
4w·6 responses

Fragrance brands for men? I’ve been using Aesop lately so something along those lines. Looking to spice things up.

Ambre Sultan (Serge Lutens)
Creed fragrances
Fiele
D.S. & Durga Customizable Sample Set
5w·5 responses

What are some creative ways you’ve discovered things (music, movies etc) outside of the algorithm?

Browse staff picks of independent bookstores
Create a playlist group chat
Follow the deep link
Intentional lightweight friend recs
6w·52 responses

Looking for desk accessories / workspace decor for a more design-conscious and creative setup. Currently my workspace setup is boring.

Yamazaki Tosca Desk Organizer
FORSÅ Work lamp, nickel-plated
Midori MD Notebook Journal A5 Grid Block
The Cutest Desk Memopads
9w·6 responses
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